I’m going to assume it follows the normal distribution because (as the name suggests) that’s what normally happens. But to do that we need data.įirst off lets talk about how this data could be distributed. this is higher than 80% of KCIs, that would give some context of how closely matched the two kink profiles are. But what if you calculate that you and your partner have a kink compatibility of 0.6? Is that high, low, amazing, disappointing? I don’t know, nobody can really know at this point because we don’t know what the typical range of scores are.Ī more useful measurement tool might be percentile rankings, e.g. We know the mathematical limit of the kink compatibility index (KCI), it is impossible for it to return values below 0 or above 1. A list means we’re less likely to miss out something important in our kink negotiation while excited by the potential to play together.

Also, I’m extremely prone to getting distracted.

Going through different kinks and comparing answers with a partner works for me. As part of this you also start to understand what makes each other tick. For me that’s what a kink negotiation is all about, not simply comparing kinks but using it to open up conversations about what you have in common and start bouncing ideas back and forth. The way I’ve found it useful was as a starting point for conversations. If you’re new to this and unsure then there are some useful resources out there, but ultimately it’s about whatever helps this conversation with your partner or partners. How exactly you go about a kink negotiation is personal. It’s a tool to aid a discussion of shared kinks and build a connection grounded in Risk Aware Consensual Kink. So the honest answer is that you should use it however you want.

Kink limit checklist